When I first decided to start sharing my thoughts through a blog, I asked myself, “What is going to set my blog apart from everyone else’s?”, “Why would someone take time to read my blog when there are thousand of others with similar stories and insight?” The answer to these questions is, I don’t know. I do know however, that I have an innate desire to connect to people, especially through writing. I don’t know if anything will ever come of it, and I don’t really expect anything to. I don’t have a desire to reach a million people or have a best selling novel. I don’t need to reach everyone, just one person that will be inspired to change the world.
We are all seeking a way to connect with one another. We can deny that need and claim our independence, but frankly speaking, we need each other. We seek out people with similar pasts, religious preferences, or interests. Some people connect over their children and jobs, while others connect through disabilities. But if this is the only way we network with each other, it will only create division. If we are not branching out to learn about other cultures, or to interact with people outside of our religious circle, we become compartmentalized in a rigid niche. It’s good to have opinions and a belief structure, but we cannot be afraid to listen and befriend people outside of our social realm. This is the only way to create more harmony and unity in our world.
We are wired for love. We are wired to give love and to receive it. When we are not feeling loved, it creates disharmony in our minds and bodies. This is when depression sets in. We isolate ourselves, and that creates even more division internally. People may seek to fill that need with fame, cars, or drugs but ultimately, they just need someone who cares. It is a basic human need, and it is ingrained in every part of our being. This is not something that should be overlooked anymore. Our society today teaches us to be isolated. We are told to suck it up and toughen up without any real support from anyone. We go about our days on social media talking to people across the world, while not realizing our neighbor is struggling just to clean her house.
Socialization has shown to improve our mental and physical states. People who have positive relationships, live longer, and healthier lives. However, even with constant connection, we have grown farther apart. If you ask people around you how many people they have to confide in, chances are they will tell you no one. We need to develop and interpersonal relationship with people, and that doesn’t happen behind a screen.
Making people feel loved and connected is a very passionate subject to me. There have been times in my life where the isolation I was feeling put me in a very dark place. I never want anyone to feel that way. It is slightly ironic that I am sitting behind a screen to tell others to put their social media up, but it has become our main source of communication. Unfortunately, we cannot tell people to disconnect without reaching out through the exact same devices we are preaching against. My call log remains virtually non-existent, but my texts constantly full because it is convenient, and it lacks any real effort to send a text.
As a whole, we need to realize that we are becoming incredibly sick; mentally, spiritually, emotionally, and physically. We are starving ourselves in so many ways. Our bodies are malnourished, we don’t develop interpersonal relationships, and we do not allow our bodies time to adequately rest with our hectic schedules. This cycle will only make our society more diseased and feeling even more broken. We need to start taking care of ourselves and loving ourselves, so that we can love others. We can create a new cycle of health and happiness, but that all starts with us disconnecting, to reconnect.